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Using Softened Startup in Conflict Discussions

June 17, 2017 By Susan O'Grady 6 Comments

Dirty Dishes in the Sink, Smelly Socks on the Floor Sometimes the things that drive us most crazy in a marriage are the ...

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Anxiety Knows No Age Limits: Each moment is all we really ever have

May 11, 2017 By Susan O'Grady 5 Comments

We all get anxious from time to time. Even mild panic that’s morphed from mere anxiety is normal. Most often, though, ...

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hiding from emotions is never a good strategy

Working with Emotions: How mindfulness and awareness help

February 7, 2017 By Susan O'Grady 4 Comments

Bringing the hidden to light is an important part of psychotherapy, sometimes achieved through focus on intellectual ...

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Psychotherapy for depression helps people accept that we can't force happiness.

How to Be Sad

January 24, 2017 By Susan O'Grady 10 Comments

There's a plethora of information about happiness. My literature search on this subject yielded over 13,000 scholarly ...

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Self-care and ethics for psychologists

Psychologists Need Self-Care Too

January 9, 2017 By Susan O'Grady 7 Comments

Who Helps the Helper? Self-care and Professional Ethics Most psychologists get into this profession because ...

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Relationships and chronic pain.

How to Keep Your Marriage Healthy While Coping with Chronic Illness

September 19, 2016 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

Most marriages will be confronted with challenges. How we cope, make meaning from, and find benefit in challenges ...

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Suffering, Compassion, and a Skate Ramp

August 2, 2016 By Susan O'Grady 4 Comments

  Last summer my neighbor’s son built a huge skate ramp right next to our property line. (We’re on different ...

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Waking up on the Grumpy Side of the Bed: Coping with difficult moods

February 23, 2016 By Susan O'Grady 4 Comments

“Yesterday all day a small gardenia was a great consolation.” Thomas Merton A Year with Thomas Merton: Daily ...

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Remaking Love: When did you stop dancing?

February 9, 2016 By Susan O'Grady 6 Comments

Taking Down the Walls to Intimacy Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all ...

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Eye contact is crucial in couple and family relationship.

Look Into My Eyes: The crucial role of eye contact in relationships

February 3, 2016 By Susan O'Grady 2 Comments

People are innately attracted to faces, especially eyes. The human face is associated with our identity; we are ...

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The Elusive Muse: Reclaiming creativity and focus

January 26, 2016 By Susan O'Grady 10 Comments

For three months, I’ve resisted writing. I sat at my desk or the kitchen table—my favorite place to write—to compose an ...

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Social media often contributes to feeling left out, leading to depression and social comparison.

Facebook’s False Face: Comparing our insides to other people’s outsides

October 28, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 3 Comments

Guidelines for Kindness When Posting We seldom deliberately present a bad face on social media. Selfie stick in hand, ...

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Learning to appreciate what you have.

Implacable Grandeur: Mindfulness and Change

September 9, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 9 Comments

If there is a sin against life, it consists perhaps not so much in despairing of life as in hoping for another life ...

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Life brings ups and downs and finding a way through the stormy turbulence takes courage and grace.

Accepting Life’s Turbulence: Fasten Your Seatbelt

August 18, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 6 Comments

This dramatic cumulonimbus was captured at 37,000 feet over the Rocky Mountains in Colorado. Pilots know to avoid going ...

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Psychotherapy is a safe place to explore what is causing you pain and how to cope.

Psychotherapy: A Safe and Sheltered Space

August 5, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 6 Comments

One size does not fit all when it comes to finding a good therapist. Many variables influence the extent to which people ...

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Being aware of pleasant events is an important skill in mindfulness and Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy.

Learning to Notice What is Already There: The Rose Itself

June 3, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 5 Comments

Behavior therapists have long used a technique to distract clients from their difficult thoughts. The client wears a ...

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Being a parent requires balancing personal needs with family and couple needs.

Marriage and Parenting: Balancing everyone’s needs

May 20, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 6 Comments

Work-life Balance --  Making Time for Yourself When I was born, my father’s colleagues congratulated him with the ...

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Parenting requires balance and composure

Maintaining Composure as a Parent and Householder

May 12, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

Maintaining a graceful composure when performing life’s demanding household and child-raising chores can take a toll, ...

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Sexual Intimacy isn't just about the sex.

Better Sex through Non-Sexual Touching

May 5, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 11 Comments

Two people rarely have the exact same sex drive. One person might be happy with daily sex, another with monthly. Besides ...

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Parenting: Playing the Hand You’re Dealt

April 29, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 8 Comments

As parents, most of us make terrible fortune-tellers. When my daughter Eileen was a first-grader, she was sent to the ...

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Learning to live with the things we have no control over.

We Fear What We Cannot Control: Acknowledging Pain and Suffering

April 15, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 2 Comments

The German airplane crash by a suicidal pilot, the Florida shootings, the Boston bombings. Every week, we read about ...

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Psychotherapy takes place by holding the space for healing to occur.

Psychotherapy, Love, and Healing

March 10, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 9 Comments

  Nothing is more natural than the urge to be held and comforted by someone who understands our suffering. ...

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Love is Nurtured by Expressing Fondness & Admiration

“I’d be better off single”: Distress-maintaining thinking

March 3, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 5 Comments

How may times have you gone to bed thinking that you hate your partner, fantasizing how you would live on your own? Your ...

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MBCT exercise in confronting distorted thinking.

Standing Behind the Waterfall: Learning to Change Distorted Thinking with Mindfulness

February 24, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 7 Comments

Thoughts are not facts. When we’re upset, our thoughts seem valid—yet it’s exactly when our emotions get stirred up that ...

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Couples counseling to help cope with disappointments with partner.

Building and Keeping a Strong Relationship After Having Kids

February 17, 2015 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

 Marital conflict is bad for kids. While every marriage has conflict, especially after the first baby, persistent ...

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The Effect of Having Kids on a Marriage

February 10, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 4 Comments

Marriage is Strained After Having Children Being a parent is hard. But being a parent is really hard on a marriage. ...

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Watching thoughts during mindfulness meditation is like searching for humpback whales.

Meditations on Humpback Whales: Mindfulness of Sights and Sounds

February 3, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 8 Comments

On a recent trip to Africa, I climb the bluff from which, I’d been told, I could see whales breaching. I have the strand ...

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The Church of the Backyard: Finding Comfort in Nature

January 27, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 9 Comments

For many years I have met with a group of women one Friday morning a month. Around our kitchen tables, we light a ...

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The New Year, Rebirth, and Obstacles

January 12, 2015 By Susan O'Grady 3 Comments

By the third or fourth week of January, many of us are reevaluating our lives. We’ve either made resolutions ...

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Every Ornament Tells a Story: Coping with Holiday Stress

December 21, 2014 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

Two weeks into December, and I had no holiday spirit. I had no desire to decorate or to do what I have done for the last ...

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When tasks overwhelm

Procrastination: Scratching Items off the Mental To-Do List

September 5, 2014 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

A lot of our stress comes from holding our undone tasks in mind; the more we have, the more they weigh upon us. ...

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Chronic Pain: Talking About Pain

August 21, 2014 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

Treating pain is difficult for several reasons. Narcotic painkillers bring with them addiction and other problems, but ...

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Mindfulness and transformation.

The Present Moment and Transformation

July 29, 2014 By Susan O'Grady 4 Comments

Research reported in the respected journal Science, in an article titled “Just think: The challenges of the disengaged ...

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Mindfulness born of reverie and nature.

Happiness and Pleasure Born of Reverie and Reflection

July 1, 2014 By Susan O'Grady 2 Comments

When I was little and living in lush, sweaty Georgia, my mother would take me and my brother out to the lawn and we’d ...

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The body scan in mindfulness will lead to wisdom

How Wisdom Emerges from Body-Scan Meditation

May 17, 2014 By Susan O'Grady 2 Comments

   Mindfulness Meditation: Using the Body Scan as a Focus Body-scan meditation focuses deliberate attention ...

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Mindfulness Meditation

How to Survive a Rip Current of the Mind When Practicing Mindfulness Meditation

September 21, 2013 By Susan O'Grady 2 Comments

Ruminations and Worry Make Meditation and CBT Difficult Recently during a visit to Hawaii, I read a pamphlet on ocean ...

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A Lesson In Mindfulness: Blackberry Picking

August 31, 2013 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

Being mindful when doing daily tasks is a lesson in informal meditation practice. The Great Irish Poet Seamus Heaney ...

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Self-care and ethics for psychologists

Alternative & Complementary Treatment for Emotional and Physical Health

June 29, 2013 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

With changes in health care following the Affordable Care Act, providers will soon emphasize health promotion over ...

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Depressed, anxious, or both? Part Two

June 19, 2013 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

Depression is a Treatable Illness According to the National Institute of Mental Health, an estimated 17 million adult ...

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How Anger Hurts Relationships

May 23, 2013 By Susan O'Grady 2 Comments

Getting angry...is easy and everyone can do it; but doing it . . . in the right amount, at the right time, and for the ...

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Being Playful Gives Freedom from the Restrictions we Put on Ourselves

May 7, 2013 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

Gerald Heard visited Georgia O’Keeffe at Ghost Ranch in 1937. He had an interest in Eastern religions and metaphysics. ...

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140 Characters or Less: The Three-Sentence Rule in Communication

May 5, 2013 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

  Couples frequently come to therapy complaining of communication problems. Conflicts don’t get resolved. ...

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How Mindfulness Can Reduce Stress

May 4, 2013 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction In 1979, Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn founded the Stress Reduction Clinic at the University ...

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Powering off to reboot your internal drive

May 3, 2013 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

When your iPad or smartphone is having issues—unresponsive, randomly crashing, or just running sluggishly—it’s time to ...

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ADHD Medications in Childhood: Dependency and Addiction in Adulthood

April 21, 2013 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

ADHD Medications in Childhood: A Cautionary Tale The NY Times article ‘Drowned in a Stream of Prescriptions’ was all ...

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Mindfulness in Everyday Life

Mindfulness in Everyday Life: Letting Everything Become Your Teacher

March 13, 2013 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

Sometimes we can’t ignore external signals to be mindful. My puppy is a reminder. When I am absorbed in a task, usually ...

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The College Transition: Things to Talk About

August 27, 2012 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

 College is a rite of passage, a transition into adulthood. It’s a transition for parents, too, who can no longer ...

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Educational Engagement : Learning to Learn

July 31, 2012 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

Red Brick, Ivy, and Spiderwebs: Learning to Engage I spent my first two years as an undergraduate at a red-brick ...

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Learning to Stay Calm During Difficult Discussions

July 26, 2012 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

By the time couples come to couples therapy they have a built up a lot of tension around recurring problems. For ...

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Summer Travels and Travails: Tips for Stress-free Vacations

July 19, 2012 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

  Tips for Making Summer Vacations Stress-Proof: or at least stress-resistant By now, most of us have either ...

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Strains of Summer on Family Life

July 14, 2012 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

  School is out.  Swim season is in full swing.  From my home, I hear the loud speaker blasting ...

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Chronic Pain and Narcotics

June 2, 2012 By Susan O'Grady 4 Comments

A Behavioral Approach to Treating Chronic Pain and Medical Problems In the June 2 edition of The New York Times, the ...

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Appreciating the Absence of Pain

May 19, 2012 By Susan O'Grady 1 Comment

  You don’t appreciate not having a toothache until you have a toothache.  Sitting in the endodontist's ...

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Empty Nest, Work-Life Balance, and Political Action

May 1, 2012 By Susan O'Grady Leave a Comment

Anticipating an empty nest, I decided to join the Contra Costa Psychological Association’s Board of Directors.  My ...

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Psychotherapy and Change

April 30, 2012 By Susan O'Grady 4 Comments

I officially started my tenure as President of our association on January 1, but the gavel was passed at our annual ...

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